|It's miserable carrying these around|
I'm not opposed to consequences, as I said last week. I'm not even opposed to saying, "I can't trust you with ______ right now" or "Let's find a different way for you to do _____" or "I can't help you with this any longer. I will be praying for you." Those definitely fall in the realm of consequences. I do object to the idea of "You screwed this up again, so I'm done with you, and I'm going to spend the rest of my days holding a grudge." That makes for great TV. It makes for horrible Christian living.
I don't have this all stitched up. I don't know all the answers. But I do know that to write someone off and then carry around resentment against them is no solution. "Forgive and forget" may not be doable, but "forgive so we both can move forward" certainly is. (Just to be clear: I'm talking about normal life circumstances here, of the "oops, I dinged your car" variety, not unusual, tragic events. I don't expect the families of the dead from last week's shooting to be capable of moving on for quite some time, for instance.)
What do you think?